"Misery loves company," they say, but that isn't always the case. I had a friend who was going through a difficult time a few years back. I decided to give her some space because I wanted to respect the limits she was setting. After a few weeks of her failing to return my calls or emails, I felt concerned.
We all have days or weeks when we don't feel like talking to anyone, and that's perfectly fine. Taking some time for self-care can be extremely beneficial. When you have clinical depression, however, isolating yourself from friends and other loved ones can be harmful to your health. Clinically depressed people often feel hopeless, worthless, and exhausted just going about their daily lives. Depression can affect a person's work, sleep, and eating habits, among other things.
The intensity of a depressed person's pain can be frightening to their friends. Friends may withdraw as a result of this fear. A helpful companionship, on the other hand, can be extremely beneficial to persons who are depressed. If you know someone who is going through the same, here are some ways to connect with them:
1. Suggest A Movie: You can offer to watch a movie with them. You can pick a comedy or a feel-good movie, or anything that they like. Sometimes, they may not have the energy to talk but just having someone give for company, can be more than enough for them. What’s more, you don’t even have to step out to watch the film, you can turn your living room into a mini-movie theatre.
2. Meme Their Day: We are all aware of the power of memes in today’s day and age. Memes make for an interesting way to share what’s on your mind and can be a great conversation starter. It lets your loved ones know that you’re thinking of them, whether or not it leads to a full-blown conversation.
3. Do The Date: Ask them if they would like to go for a walk, or grab a coffee. It can be just the two of you. When the symptoms of depression set in, it can be overwhelming for your loved one to be in busy settings or interact in groups. Spending one-on-one time with them can put their mind at ease, and they would likely be able to open up to you.
4. Memories Galore: Walking down memory lane can be a source of joy. Share your favourite memory with them, or memorabilia and tell them how grateful you are for it. This helps remind your friend of your strong connection, and also that you are thinking about them. This in turn makes them feel less ‘alone’.
5. Cue Conversation Starter: Ask about a current event you know they’re interested in. This will help spark a bigger conversation and may help distract them from their struggles, even if it is for a little bit.
A Cautionary Note
You may have their best interests at heart while reaching out to your loved ones, but it is important to be empathetic. It always helps to provide a listening ear than to give unsolicited advice, which could further close them off from seeking help. It's also important to note that the advice given above is not by a mental health expert. If you know someone who is suffering from depression, help them seek advice, help and support from a mental health professional.
Also Read: How To Be There For A Grieving Friend