We live in a society that is knee-deep into the institution of marriage. As humans, for centuries, we’ve been attaching a lot of significance to being coupled up. You go to a restaurant alone, and they will make sure to ask you if someone will be joining you. You simply grace a family get-together with your awkward presence and some relative will ask you if you have someone you’d like to marry. Your friends invite you to third-wheel so many times, you feel like they have adopted you. Not being in a relationship is not as bad as the world makes it sound.
Of course, there are holidays dedicated to making you feel more single than ever. But again, it all comes down to what significance you attach to these things. If you feel happy without a relationship, there is no reason you need one. In fact, even if you seek a relationship, you should still be content with yourself.
There are several reasons people get into a relationship, say because they fell in love with someone. Some people go for an arranged marriage because they feel they are ready in life to enter that phase. And it’s perfectly fine. But sometimes, people enter a relationship because of unhealthy reasons that don’t serve their growth.
Here are 5 unhealthy reasons to get into a relationship.
1. All your friends are coupled
Experts say that social circles are similar in their concepts of relationships. Commitment-phobia is contagious, they say. If your herd is team single, it’s likely that you will be content until someone starts changing that. Similarly, when all your friends are getting married or into romantic relationships, you crave one too. Especially, if they insist on inviting their plus-ones to all your gatherings.
2. It’s an item you have to check on your to-do list
Indian parents, usually, follow a strict set of rules when it comes to life’s milestone events. At 21, you graduate and find a job or pursue higher studies. Get married by a certain age and ultimately have children. Even our peers have age-defined rules for losing your virginity or having your first relationship. And then with all those pressures mounting up, you decide to just be in one. No, just because people around you think you’ve been single long enough, doesn’t mean you should feel pressurised to date.
3. You feel lonely
It gets lonely sometimes—your friends are coupled, some are busy with their work and all that. Your siblings, if any have their own lives to work on. You want someone to be available at the end of the day, to talk to you. But having a boyfriend just for your loneliness isn’t the best thing. Instead, work on feeling content by yourself and find a way to keep yourself busy.
4. You need a distraction
Sometimes, there are other issues that we need to take care of in our lives, such as psychological and emotional damages that we stuff in our baggage and continue to carry around. You need a distraction and a relationship serves the purpose. Instead, choose to heal and then find someone, so you don’t hurt them too.
5. You crave sex
Sexual urges are natural and we crave physical intimacy. As much as it makes us feel all sorts of happiness, sex is not the right reason to get into a relationship. Emotional connect is as important as physical connect. Try open relationships (they might break your heart, though!)
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