While some of us have vast dating experience, some of us have not had many relationships. You may have been lucky to find a relationship that lasts, or maybe you’ve joined the bandwagon of commitment-phobes post a bad heartbreak. Having said that, relationships that ended and those that never took off the way you expected them to, teach us a lot.
Sometimes, there’s so much pessimism emanating from our heartbreak that we begin to develop a negative attitude towards love, or we end up lowering our standards due to previous disappointment. Have you ever wondered why the people you share great chemistry with, almost never offer a lot of commitment? Have you ever wondered why someone who offers great companionship doesn’t come with a lot of thrill? And then, you let go of a major chunk of your optimism, falsely accepting that you can’t have it all.
Of course, there’ll always be something imperfect in your relationship. But if you find the five Cs in line, you can feel assured that it’s going to be an amazing one. Even when one of these is lacking in your partnership, the balance is shaken a bit, there’s nothing that can’t be worked upon. Here are the five Cs of a happy relationship.
The number of dating trends that have emerged in the past couple of years is magnanimous. And if you really connect the dots, you’ll realise that most of these have started to exist because of our generation’s fear of commitment. For example, what is a situationship? It is a relationship that is not labelled as one.
The thing is, you may have sizzling chemistry or they may be the most caring partner if you’ve ever had, but if you don’t share the commitment, it won’t work. Insecurities and uncertainties seep in where there is a scarcity of a promise and that only demolishes your relationship.
When you think of what you want in a life partner, you often think about things that you would want a companion for. For example, many people want a partner who is a travel enthusiast like them, so they can explore Insta-worthy places together. When we talk about having a partner, we want them to be with us, perhaps in not everything, but in a lot of things.
Even if your interests are different, it would benefit your relationship to find a middle ground or sometimes, join the other in what they like to do. Finding a balance is the key.
It is saddening how many couples part ways because they want different things in life. The thing is, there are wants and needs, and there’s a world of difference between them. You may really need to fulfil certain goals – those that you dream of, or have perhaps planned with precision for years. But what if your life goals clash with your partner’s? It’s like two people paddling the boat in two different directions; it takes you nowhere.
The world is divided on this. Some people deem it highly important and some long-term relationship seekers claim that chemistry is overrated. However, it depends on what is important to you. Having good chemistry makes your romance sizzle, and you almost always bounce back from little fights. But again, a relationship needs other things to sustain and it can’t last long just on the basis of chemistry.
What is compatibility? You use the term ‘compatible’ for a tech device, say a Bluetooth remote or a keyboard, when it works just the way it should. It does its job with ease. Similarly, when a partner is actually compatible with you, the relationship just flows. You are not constantly fighting to keep it going. You are not struggling with insecurities. They just add more happiness to your life. There are tough times, of course, but compatibility makes you feel in sync and ready to take on the world. You look at the view from different glasses, but you share the same core values.
You may not find all of these Cs in full capacity with one person. But if it’s something that can be worked upon, your relationship will feel magical. Else, you at least have a realistic picture of what kind of obstacles lie ahead.
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