’Do what you can to show you care about other people, and you will make our world a better place.’ - Rosalynn Carter, Former First Lady of the USA
Human relationships, though complicated, play a key role in the functioning of the world. Our major life experiences are shaped by our unique relationships with the different individuals we encounter. These relationships don’t just have to be romantic.
The kind of bond and intimacy we share with different individuals speaks volumes about us as well. For our social and emotional well-being, we should always be mindful of the people we choose to build friendships, bonds or relationships with. Surround yourself with people who are progressive, grateful, respectful, kind, positive and encouraging. Such people in turn contribute to our happiness and positivity.
Even in existing relationships, there is always scope for improvement, either in terms of strengthening it, re-starting it or valuing it more than before. Here are some tips that will enrich your relationships:
1. Get to know yourself - Do not shrug off your emotions or desires repeatedly. Try to figure out your likes and dislikes. Assess if you are being self-critical too often. Do you constantly feel inferior or tend to compare yourself to others? Understand your shortcomings and strengths clearly.
2. Put in the extra effort - Even if certain bonds deepen quickly, it takes effort to maintain them over a longer period. With time and familiarity, there is bound to be some friction, or the odd disagreement every now and then. One sided-efforts to keep the relationship going will eventually fizzle out, so both parties need to put in equal effort.
3. Respect boundaries - No matter how comfortable you are with each other, every individual requires their space and this should be respected. A tendency to overstep can lead to toxicity in a relationship.
4. Communicate and listen - Differences are inevitable in any relationship, and at times they can actually be good for better understanding between both parties and solidifying the bond. What’s more important is that every difference or problem must be discussed between those involved. Listening intently and then communicating how you feel is crucial. The clearer the communication, the better is the relationship.
5. Let go of the idea of control - It’s always better to set aside any worries about what’s not in your control. When we try to control situations and people beyond our limits, problems arise.
6. Accept and celebrate your differences - Acceptance is key. The more open we are to accepting our flaws, the flaws of others, and helping each other grow, the easier it is to achieve peace of mind.
7. Develop empathy and trust for people - The more we learn to trust, the deeper the bond we build. Cultivate feelings of empathy and compassion to maintain healthy and close relationships.
8. Give time - Today, time is the investment you can make. . Spend time with the people who really matter to you.